By Teresa Currivan, LMFT, Parent Coach
1) She is highly sensitive to stimuli, including noise, smell, touch, emotions. No two highly sensitive children are alike. She may hear a whisper across a room, or see the colors of the stars in the sky when others can not. One in every 5 children is thought to be highly sensitive. (While there is no number for how many highly sensitive children are empaths, it is common in gifted children.)
2) He absorbs other people’s emotions. This is the child in the large family who seems to be the one to get sick, emotionally or physically, when something is “off” in the family. He knows when mommy is upset, sometimes even before she does. He may also seem to take home anxieties and feelings from others at school. He is sometimes very good at doing impressions of people, or will take on a friend’s mannerisms if he has been around him frequently.
3) She needs alone time and time in nature. Not just for the fun of it, but in order to function well. If in a constantly stressful, negative environment, she may not appear empathic, and can even be acting out in distress. When in a nurturing, loving environment, the empath can soar.
4) Learning to cope in life as an empath is going to be different for him. If you are an empath, learning the skills for yourself will help you to help your child. At the same time, when there is more than one empath in a family, the dynamics can get interesting. Mindfulness techniques can be especially helpful. Heart centered approaches work best.
5) She is finely tuned to the pain of others. She will feel the pain as her own and try to help, sometimes without being asked, or even being conscious about it. Ie: wanting to help every homeless person she sees, and become distressed when she cannot. She will need help navigating how and where she wants to spend her energy so that she does not become disheartened and drained.
Teresa Currivan is a mother and a licensed marriage and family therapist who coaches parents by phone and in person, at Help My Child Thrive Coaching, and is a school therapist. Her articles can be seen on Mother.ly, FilterFreeParents, Hoagies Gifted Education, and Gifted Homeschoolers Forum. She specializes in giftedness, twice exceptionality, highly sensitive and creative, life changes, creative blocks, family dynamics, and adults. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and son. You can follow her facebook page here: fb.me/TeresaCurrivanCoaching and see her articles at https://helpmychildthrive.com/
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