by Teresa Currivan, LMFT, Parent Coach
The term “Twice Exceptional” or “2e” is commonly used to describe children and adults who are intellectually gifted and who have some form of disability: they are exceptional both in their abilities and in their disabilities.
2e individuals usually display at least some of the following characteristics and skills:
- advanced language
- analytical thinking
- intense drive to find out the meaning of things on their own terms
- the ability to find connections between things that others can not see
- unique or higher level sense of humor
- heightened sensitivity to needs and motivations of others
- aversion to being judged; they may do really well with one teacher, and be “the awful child” with another
- strong sense of fairness and justice
- accelerated learning beyond their age group in one or more areas, while also possibly appearing to be behind in others
- intense sensory processing issues –eg, heightened sensitivities to foods, touch, sounds, sights, movement — or conversely the need for more stimulation in any of these areas. (See my article on sensory issues, link below.)
- lack of executive functioning and attention issues. In very simple terms, this is the child who has a hard time getting organized or following several steps of instructions before getting sidetracked. (ADHD is also a 2e trait that can stay through adulthood, but often the frontal lobe catches up by age 11 or 12 and the ADHD-like traits lessen. See Davidsongifted.org for more on this.)
- fluidity in learning and interest. They may be the expert in history one month and appear to have no interest the next. They also learn best when able to learn across subjects such as learning math while measuring for cooking, etc.
The “2” in “2e” implies that these gifts are paired with something wrong – commonly dyslexia, dysgraphia or ADHD, among others. While 2e children can have these disabilities, these same labels are too often applied without fully understanding the specifics of each gifted child. Being in the exceptionally gifted category comes with heightened sensitivities, intensities, perfectionism, and intense drive to learn and create. As we all know, these traits can be misunderstood as pathologies. The same child who is profoundly gifted but mistaken to be moderately gifted with disabilities is going to be less likely to thrive. This is something I see all too often. The highly to profoundly gifted cannot accurately be diagnosed with anything until these three things are first identified and addressed:
Until We Address These 3 Things, We Don’t Know What’s Going On
1. Appropriate Learning Environment
2e kids respond best to relational, hands-on learning from teachers who are as excited about the topics as they are. Access to technology and allowing them to keep their sense of agency is key. They are often top-down learners who want to get the big picture first and then (at some point) dig deeper. They may also hop from topic to topic for a long time. They often are fluid from subject to subject. For example, a child may be interested in learning the entire history of the world and then go deeply into WWII while also studying the technology that is invented at various times. At times becoming more focused on the technology of the inventions, at times, the inventors, and at times what was happening in that historical moment and how the invention influenced history.
While gifted homeschoolers excel at properly educating the highly to profoundly gifted, using whatever tools are at their disposal, you can also find an appropriate learning environment in some micro-schools designed for the more creative child that is able to follow their fluid way of learning. Educating these children is both an art and a science. Knowing each child deeply, having information at the ready and in a way that engages and matches them is ideal.
In an improper learning environment, such as a typical school setting, especially one that is overcrowded with little individual attention, 2e boys commonly act out in the classroom by first or second grade, if not sooner, while 2e girls can become gifted at fitting in. The depression and frustration the child feels might look like anger in a boy, and depression, cutting or picking, or nothing in a girl. Girls (or boys who are more inward in their reactions) may not act out or show problems until the middle school years. As a result, many 2e boys are misunderstood as troublemakers, and many 2e girls’ problems are not addressed until later, if at all. (It is also a gifted and 2e trait to be non-gender conforming, so another way to identify these kids is to understand that some will internalize their struggles and some will externalize them.)
Twice-exceptional children I see who have been in a poorly fitting school setting almost always come with a list of diagnoses, including psychiatric ones, while deep depressive symptoms, usually due to lack of school fit, remain unaddressed. Not only do they begin to see themselves as defective, but their depression (sometimes masked as anger) gets more intense as the years go by because their intellectual drive and creativity, the place where they can feel most alive, is often not met and becomes deadened. When poor school fit is left unaddressed, it can become a true diagnosis of depression or other psychiatric conditions at some point.
3. Sensory Issues
Highly to profoundly gifted individuals have heightened senses. Sometimes sensory issues can come along with heightened senses.
Sensory processing disorders are often misunderstood. They have more to do with how the brain processes the senses rather than the senses themselves. One example is the child who has excellent hearing capabilities in the ear, but whose brain does not register the sounds correctly. The white matter leading the sound information from the ear to the brain is where the issues are. It is commonly understood that in a protective mechanism to prevent the brain (and therefore child) from becoming overwhelmed by excessive noise.
Behaviors that are a result of sensory issues are very often misunderstood by professionals. They can look like ADHD, dyslexia, and other serious disorders, and most of all the child is just uncomfortable, jumpy, overwhelmed and misunderstood until these issues are understood and addressed as best they can be.
A professional who understands giftedness and sensory issues is going to be the most helpful here. Understanding typical gifted sensitivities and traits vs. sensory disorders that need to be addressed can be tricky. One example is of a first-grade boy who was diagnosed with dysgraphia and weakened muscles in the hands by an occupational therapist who did not understand his impatience with writing letters and numbers (due to giftedness). This same child could draw detailed and precise drawings of bugs and animals.
For more on sensory issues, see my article, linked below.
Any combination of the above three can exponentially increase the likelihood of misdiagnosis, and, perhaps even more importantly, causing confusion to parents. At the same time, once these three issues are accurately addressed, it will become clear if there are other issues that need to be identified, or that the child is simply highly to profoundly gifted with all of the complicated the side effects that can come with it.
As the father of a profoundly gifted 11-year-old said of gifted individuals, “It’s like we’re all lopsided, and the more gifted, the more lopsided.” It is often difficult to describe the differently wired brain.
I cannot stress enough that professionals who do not understand the highly to profoundly gifted population are not going to understand or be able to accurately diagnose them. If your child has been diagnosed as 2e, or you suspect they are in the higher ranges of giftedness, they may just be a typically highly to profoundly child, or “exceptional”.
Teresa Currivan is a mother, licensed marriage and family therapist and coach who coach at Help My Child Thrive Coaching. She specializes in giftedness, twice exceptionality, life changes, creative blocks, and family dynamics. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her husband and son. You can also find her on Facebook at fb.me/teresacurrivancoaching.
***Not sure if your child is gifted? Or maybe you have a question about your gifted child or family? I offer free 20 minute consultations for first-timers. Email me and we’ll set up a time to talk. I’d love to hear from you. TeresaCurrivan@gmail.com ***
Want to read about a typical 2e child’s story? I recommend this article:
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